Tuesday, December 19, 2006

Attitude Adjustment

I believe an attitude adjustment may be in order. Currently there is some controversy in my life over who needs the attitude adjustment. My friends say it is me. I disagree. My niece, LB (a non-blogger, who holds little in common with my blogging nieces you know and love), called me several weeks before Christmas to put in her present order. Since then she has called me every three or four days to see how I am progressing on it and to add items. Not surprisingly, I've not progressed at all. That same niece had an argument with me about whether or not I would be allowed to attend church on Christmas Eve. Hello? She is currently considering my suggestion she attend church with me. I am not holding my breath. A friend of mine who usually travels cross-country for Christmas is staying here, so two days ago she called me out of the blue and informed me that I would be having Christmas dinner at her home. Then she was offended when I told her I had already made other plans. What in the definition of the word "gift" implies that one places orders for them? And what, in the definition of "friendship" gives one the right to define someone else's choices?

21 Comments:

Blogger JAM said...

She sounds like Sally, Charlie Brown's little sister in A Charlie Brown Christmas when she's having Charlie write her letter to Santa...

"Please note the size and color of each item... or, make it easy on yourself and send cash. Tens and Twenties will do..."

It took me many years to realize that people CHOOSE to be offended. Just do what is on your heart, and let them deal with their emotions. But my 2Cents is that They're the ones needing the attitude adjustment.

12/19/2006 06:02:00 AM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Jam -- having just visited your blog, I am not certain I can accept your ascertation of my sanity with any faith.

12/19/2006 06:09:00 AM  
Anonymous Brian said...

Quill,

I must say that you are perfect in every way, and have never caused me any offense. :)

Is it too late to place my demented order?

12/19/2006 07:39:00 AM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Brian -- I am glad I've never caused you any offense since that has never been my intent, but I must say anyone who thinks I'm perfect is truly demented. I expect my family to chime in on this any second ....

12/19/2006 07:48:00 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

Nice niece. Sounds heavenly. As for the friend...

12/19/2006 08:11:00 AM  
Blogger O Ceallaigh said...

Nothing and nothing.

Maybe, in responding to these people (and others like them), you need to adopt the line used by Peco and Alvarado in the Firesign Theatre album "Don't crush that dwarf ..." - used by them as a password response so they could cross the Sector M front lines:

"Not Responsible! Park And Lock It!!"

12/19/2006 09:01:00 AM  
Blogger Pauline said...

Yes the corruption of the spirit of christmas, we humans do it smashingly...Be content with your plans and try to let others be content with theirs. My eldest is always placing a monkey wrench into my holidays. This year I offered her four different choices.She was speechless and unable to decide. I told her that if she preferred we could share a quiet cup of tea any day that was best for her...again speechless.Some people just want chaos no matter how accommodating we try to be. Be bold, be ruthless, celebrate with joyfulness inspite of all thos little monkey wrenches...

12/19/2006 09:16:00 AM  
Anonymous Kat said...

WooHoo... Niece is just a tad demanding and controlling. She is definately the one that needs an attitude adjustment. Even when I was a kid I didn't make "gift lists", it just felt so ...icky. Just keep smiling and give her dish towels. That'll her teach her not to be such a greedy thing.

12/19/2006 09:51:00 AM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Jenn -- you can have them both ...

OC -- today they are just minor irritants in my life. Caller ID is a glorious thing.

Pauline -- apparently they have been to OC's blog and caught the Humbug.

Kat -- she asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I said, "Nothing I have to cook, clean, feed, iron, store, dust, launder, vacuum ....."

12/19/2006 10:42:00 AM  
Blogger charlie said...

nothing and nothing as said before by OC. it is impudent of them and they ought to be ashamed but won't be, of course.

12/19/2006 11:09:00 AM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Charlie -- I have promised myself that for the rest of this season they can speak to my voice mail.

12/19/2006 11:16:00 AM  
Blogger Sar said...

Wow, that's just not right. Yes, their attitudes need adjusting and while they're at it how about their manners too.

12/19/2006 11:29:00 AM  
Anonymous al said...

You can't order a gift. Or a friend.

12/19/2006 12:25:00 PM  
Blogger goldennib said...

I WANT you to be more flexible and understanding of the WANTS of others.

12/19/2006 04:23:00 PM  
Anonymous Jackie said...

Quilly-Sister, LB came by her attitudes naturally - and was then enabled by her mother. (Remember the year her mother bought her a computer - and then ended up in tears because LB went on and on because it wasn't the right one?) You, as I have pointed out before, continue to ALLOW the same behavior from her. DON'T.
Buy, or don't buy, her whatever YOU want to - and how she deals with it - is her problem. That's my two cents. (I know, I know, it's actually more like a dime!)

12/19/2006 04:23:00 PM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Sar -- is there a wrench for that?

Al -- tell them, not me!

Nessa -- okay, hold your breath while I decide.

Jackie -- I don't allow it. I do what I need to do. And in all these years she hasn't caught on.

12/19/2006 06:37:00 PM  
Blogger ~*SilverNeurotic*~ said...

Buy a couple of Etiquette books for your neice and your friend for Christmas. They have a lot to learn.

12/19/2006 07:38:00 PM  
Blogger QuillDancer said...

Silver -- what a good idea!

12/19/2006 07:44:00 PM  
Anonymous cindra said...

Oh, brother said the niece from the other sister. Just keep doing that thing that you and Boo do...smile, nod, and then do what you want.

12/20/2006 01:37:00 AM  
Blogger Melyssa said...

Holy Moly. This world is indeed changing, but the nerve of some people kils me. I'm currently going through som similar situtions...I've had two huge disapointments this year with those I thought were my "friends". Hang in there!!

12/21/2006 10:58:00 AM  
Blogger Caryl-Mom-Nana said...

I wish it were true, what Cindra said. Smile, nod then do what you want. You don't, and will end up trying to please them all and trying to be true to you and the outlook doesn't look bright. I say old tapes are hard to break and you need distance,,,,,,like a few thousand miles!! Out of the rut, into a new one!!
And now to that perfect part (I see the rest of the family just skimmed right over that) you are exceptional, bright, beautiful and extremely entertaining but perfect you are not. and if you want examples I can give them....may find them embarassing beyond belief though!!
Much love..........yours

12/21/2006 07:32:00 PM  

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